The Trick to Adulting

What does adulting actually look like?

By Isabella Azzaro

On a college campus, by far the most common phrase heard is: “Why can’t I adult?” Well, that’s a valid concern, because the real question is, “What does it mean to be an adult?” 

I can’t count the number of times I’ve watched a Disney movie and felt judged by peers, family, and society in general. The moment we reach a certain age, we as adults are expected to avoid childish things. However, being an adult shouldn’t be about rejecting childhood, but rather it should be owning up to our own choices and sticking to our opinions no matter what. 

Throughout various “milestone” ages, a list of “dos” and “do-nots” have accumulated where certain ideas or activities are considered appropriate for that particular age. Even back in high school, the library was divided into middle school and high school sections, and, let’s be honest, no high schooler would be caught dead in the middle school section, even if that’s where the Percy Jackson books were kept. This same pattern even extends to what we eat. Purchasing cotton candy or a giant rainbow lollipop in public will certainly warrant some strange looks from those around you. Why? Are candy preferences supposed to mature with age? Of course not!

As we get older, it seems that being an adult implies rejecting childhood ideals as a whole, but it doesn’t have to. Being an adult shouldn't be this elusive concept we all chase—it is very attainable. It’s not about what interests we are or are not allowed to entertain. Being an adult is taking responsibility for yourself and your actions. 

If you want to buy a massive bag of cotton candy, then that shouldn't be looked down upon, but you have to make the dentist appointment. That is what it means to take responsibility as an adult. “Adulting” doesn't fit into neat, stackable boxes. Everyone has a different outlook on it, but in the end, you have to own up to your choices and ignore everyone else’s expectations.